When I see a new client there are always things we will discuss in that first session that are important to know. And I want to share one of those with you. That is that your therapist works for you, not the other way around. I hear lots of stories of people who just started seeing a therapist and it just doesn’t feel like a good fit, but they stay because they aren’t sure what to do, or think maybe it will get better. Or they’ve been seeing a therapist for a while and feel like things are stalled, or that nothing is changing/working but they don’t bring it up and/or stay because they don’t want to make their therapist feel bad, or they think something must be wrong with them. It’s always okay and a really good idea to bring such things up with your therapist. I always tell my clients that as we get going,”each therapist has a different personality, theoretical approach, or conceptual approach, that may or may not work for you personally. Make sure you’re getting your needs met. I won’t be offended, this is about what you need.” I’m always willing to talk with clients about what needs are and adjust what I am providing to them, but ultimately if a therapist doesn’t fit, or you’ve learned what you ned to learn from them, move on! Everyone is on a journey of growth and progression, find what fits for you right now.
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