Category: Being Present

New Beginnings

As is typical this time of year, I’m considering New Beginnings and what they can do for us.  My sister-in-law and I had a conversation that got me thinking.  I’m inspired by the beginnings we see in nature, ones she listed out for me.  New seeds push through the soil and reach up into the light to grow and create new plants.  Baby chicks break through a shell to start a new life.  Clams create a new beautiful pearl by coating an irritating grain of sand.  Caterpillars literally have a meltdown (their bodies dissolve) inside their chrysalis to create a new life as a butterfly.  These new beginnings and new life are not without struggle and effort—sometimes, massive painful effort.  Yet without that painful, difficult push forward, it would be impossible to succeed and have that new life.  The joy of having wings, of the beauty of the pearl, or the fresh breath of life outside a shell comes because of the struggle.  Sometimes it feels easier to hide from the struggle.  But what if we embrace it?  What if we invite it in?  What if we take the long view and see where it could lead us?  The perspective could change everything.

Accepting Reality

As a therapist I do a lot of study in different methods that help people progress through their difficulties.  One concept I have noticed regularly in my study of 12 step literature is the concept of accepting reality.  I’ve seen this concept elsewhere, and while I have a million thoughts that I’ll have to share another time, I would like to share 3 of my favorite quotes on the subject.  One of these is a quote from a book I read, one is a 12-step quote, and one is from a religious source (so take what you like and leave the rest).  I always enjoy when I can pull truth on the same topic from several different arenas and see what they each contribute to a deeper personal understanding.  What understanding do you find through these quotes?

“When I argue with reality I lose, but only 100% of the time.” –Byron Katie.

“Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today.  When I am distrubed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, or situation–some fact of my life–unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.  Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake…unless I accept life completely on life’s terms, I cannot be happy.”–AA Big Book

“To recognize the hand of the Lord in your life and to accept His will without complaint is a beginning. That decision does not immediately eliminate the struggles that will come for your growth. But I witness that it is the best way there is for you to find strength and understanding. It will free you from the dead ends of your own reasoning. It will allow your life to become a productive, meaningful experienc, when otherwise you may not know how to go on.”–Richard G. Scott, October General Conference, 1995

Determined to Rise

I am excited to announce that I will be speaking at an amazing women’s retreat in 2 weeks.  Determined to Rise hosts retreats for women who have suffered abuse, most commonly betrayal trauma.  It is a jam packed weekend of presentations on healing, recreational therapy, art therapy, yoga, and relaxation.  You can connect with women who have been there, and with resources to heal.  And best of all Determined to Rise does it very inexpensively!  For less than the price of a hotel room, you get everything you need to rejuvenate and move forward: meals, room and board, take homes, and all the activities mentioned above.  I’m honored to join this amazing team as the guest therapist presenter.  I hope to see you all there.  To get more information and register see their website here.  This year’s retreat is themed: Putting My Pieces Together, and I believe will feature a kintsugi art therapy activity.

Summer Course Dates Available

As is often the case approaching the summer, it’s been a scramble to plan activities and vacations.  I finally have my summer course schedules finalized!

  • Betrayal Trauma Healing Course 1 starts Monday June 10th, 10-11:30am MST
  • Betrayal Trauma Healing Course 2 will follow Course 1 and start in August
  • Betrayal Trauma Boundaries Course starts Tuesday June 11th, 10-11:30am MST
  • Teaching Children Healthy Sexuality (Non-Denominational) starts Wednesday June 19th, 10-11:30am MST
  • Teaching Children Healthy Sexuality (Church of Jesus Christ) starts Thursday June 20th, 10-11:30am MST


For more details, check out the courses page. And email to sign up!

Summer can be crazy, if you have to miss a week, you can make it up or I can make a recording temporarily available (based on the consent of other participants).

If you want a course but can’t take it during the offered time, let me know, I’d love to try and accommodate you now or in the future.  I do occasionally add additional courses.

Live in Your Own Life!

**Note:  This post contains doctrinal concepts from The Church of Jesus Christ, to which I ascribe. Take what you like, and leave the rest.

I teach a Sunday School class of 12 and 13 year olds.  Like 15 of them. And it’s awesome. It’s a fun challenge to try and keep them all engaged.  There are a few key concepts that I harp on constantly. If they learn nothing else from my class, I want it to be this:

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Airplanes and Buffalo

**Note:  This post contains doctrinal concepts from The Church of Jesus Christ, to which I ascribe. Take what you like, and leave the rest.

As I was thinking today about betrayal trauma, and other things that pull us away from serenity, I thought of the analogy Dieter F. Uctdorf once gave of an airplane going into turbulence.  

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